The Break-Up: A Shift In Energy
BREAKING NEWS:
Jason is single.
Alert the media.
Okay, that was hard to write even.
After a year of being with Mikey, who was my best friend for five years before that, the two of us have separated for reasons that I won’t go into to protect his privacy. We just aren’t at a place where we can have a healthy relationship right now and the most loving thing we can do for each other is to let each other go. After all the pain that we have been through, it will be hard enough to salvage the friendship, but I think we’re going to do our best to rebuild it and not make it so co-dependent this time around. There is also a part of me that holds out hope that someday we can make it work, but at the same time I know that I can’t hold onto the past and progress into the future. That tie has to be severed.
So, the most important thing: What have I learned?
Well, I’ve learned that the apple doesn’t fall very far. I, like my mother, seem to consistently get into relationships with men who are destructive in one form or another. I have a tendency to want to “fix” people so I go for wounded souls that maybe aren’t at a point where they’d like to be fixed or at least aren’t mended to the point where they can truly share their lives with me.
The good news is that I’ve learned I can make myself vulnerable with someone! And that for the right person, I can get past my intimacy issues. And through dating my best friend, I really learned that, for me, the friendship aspect is what should take priority in relationships. Unfortunately, most of us come at relationships from a foundation of lust and romance. We eye each other across the room, we’re attracted to each other, there’s an intensity and it grows from there. But lust and romance can be found on a dance floor any night of the week. They aren’t precious rarities. Even the mere definition of romance is “an often short-lived fascination” or “an embellished emotion.” Something Mikey and I had going for us is that we didn’t start our relationship from lust and romance. We started from five years as best friends and it taught me that what matters to me most in relationships is whether or not you can take care of each other better than anyone else, cares about each other more than anyone else, will nurture each other in sickness, inspire each other, be your best friend. Lust and romance should certainly be a part of the equation, but nowhere near the highlight of a relationship with someone. Lust and romance die. Love does not. I’ll be looking for someone who agrees with me on those priorities next go around, though at the moment it’s hard for me to envision myself with anyone but him.
We broke up last Wednesday, on the Summer Solstice interestingly enough and we had a tumultuous few days following that before we came to amicable conclusions by the change into the New Moon at the end of the weekend. There’s a huge shift in energy right now.
Neil tells me that astrologically it’s a time of cutting away what’s no longer working for us and that something has to end before there can be a new beginning. He says we’re going into an entirely new lunar period that will focus a lot on emotions and spirituality, including:
A new look at Water - especially its pollution, state of purity etc
Water talking to us - rain, tsunamis, the ocean, rivers, streams, ponds, fish, ice
Emotions - the need to let go of old, dead-wood feelings
Spirituality - a new desire to connect with something larger than ourselves
A drive to tap into your psychic energies, follow our intuition
More collective experiences with the 'other realms'
New movies focusing on Pisces material - ghosts, spirits, psychic energy, magic
Some great works - amazing new ethereal artists, singers, poets
More Goddess respect
A new focus on the underdog in society - and a peek into hospitals, prisons, monasteries, places of retreat
A collective hunger for yoga and other body-spirit connective disciplines
I think it’s just time to grow. The problem is, my friendship/relationship with Mikey has become so much more than just that. It’s become a crutch. And living without him in my life every day is like learning how to walk again.
“A child that hides behind a chair, almost afraid to grow without you there. Whisper words that make you see what you’ve come to mean to me. Through your love I’d seen forever, we became as one. I never saw you turn away. My love was blind. You call me when your storm is over, crying over love that I can give you. ‘Cause it’s so hard letting go. And it’s so hard not to cry. And when the love is gone, then one of us will know. It’s so hard letting go.” - Barbra Streisand, Letting Go
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